Healing begins when we unlearn harmful models and reclaim emotional sovereignty
We grow up inside invisible systems.
Rules no one explains—but everyone enforces.
We don’t question them, because they’re everywhere.
And breaking them comes at a cost.
This framework exposes the false emotional models we were trained to follow:
- Who gets to have power.
- What makes someone valuable.
- Why control is disguised as care.
- How punishment is called protection.
4.0 — Introduction to the Models
False Models reward disconnection, not care. Naming them makes invisible harm visible.
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4.0 – Introduction to The Models4.1 – The Performance Model
Where success becomes a mask—and worth is measured by appearances.
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4.1 – The Performance Model — Success Based on Apperance4.2 – The Obedience Model
Where respect is confused with silence—and love is earned through compliance.
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4.2 – The Obedience Model — Confusing Submission With Respect4.3 – The Punishment Model
Where harm is justified as discipline—and pain is reframed as care.
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4.3 – The Punishment Model — Harm Justified As Deserved Punishment04.4 – The Dominance Model
Where power means superiority—and empathy is treated as weakness.
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4.4 – The Dominance Model — Power as Strength, Empathy as Weakness04.5 – The Entitlement Model
Where some believe they are owed more—just for existing.
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4.5 – The Entitlement Model — Some Believe Are Owed More04.6 – The Roles Model
Where identity becomes obedience—and love is conditional on performance.
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4.6 – The Roles Model — We Were Taught To ObeyThey all together reveal the quiet truth behind it all:
These rules were never made for our wellbeing. They were made to keep us in our place.
Comparative Insight Table — Map Level 4
How The False Models Of Society Framework Aligns With and Expands Existing Theories
Domain | Aligned Theories / Models | How TEG‑Blue Integrates Them | What TEG‑Blue Adds or Clarifies |
Psychology | • Winnicott – True/False Self • Internal Family Systems (IFS) • Ego States & Defense Mechanisms | Each False Model (e.g., Performance, Obedience) reflects a specific ego adaptation—internal “parts” shaped to survive social expectations. These roles are tracked emotionally and visually. | TEG‑Blue makes the formation of the false self tangible. It shows how systemic pressure fragments the psyche—and offers tools to name, witness, and repair each part. |
Sociology | • Goffman – Dramaturgy • Bourdieu – Habitus & Symbolic Power • Role Theory | Reveals how social performance is internalized as identity. Roles like “the good child,” “the provider,” or “the obedient woman” are mapped as emotional contracts shaped by invisible rules. | TEG‑Blue exposes the emotional harm behind conformity—how love, power, and worth are conditioned. It connects abstract social roles to lived emotional distortions. |
Neuroscience | • Polyvagal Theory (Porges) • Trauma Responses (Fight/Flight/Freeze/Fawn) • Implicit Memory / Somatic Storage | Each model links directly to nervous system states (e.g., fawn = Obedience, freeze = Performance collapse). Shows how roles are not just beliefs—they’re embodied survival patterns. | TEG‑Blue clarifies how social norms get wired into the body. It tracks the progression from safety to emotional shutdown—making trauma patterns visible, nameable, and unshaming. |
Education / Therapy | • Social Emotional Learning (SEL) • Narrative Therapy • Trauma-Informed Practice (van der Kolk, Perry) • Family Systems | Brings visual language and concrete tools to name invisible scripts. Teachers, therapists, and caregivers can use the models to help others recognize roles they were trained to perform. | TEG‑Blue offers a bridge between personal healing and systemic change. It gives educators and practitioners language to talk about emotional harm as both internal and cultural. |
TEG‑Blue’s Unique Contribution
TEG-Blue clarifies that society’s false models are not separate mistakes, but expressions of the same emotional mechanism.
- Reveals the architecture of control — how invisible rules (performance, obedience, punishment, entitlement) shape both identity and society.
- Shows how survival becomes social currency — suppression, silence, and compliance are praised as “maturity” or “strength.”
- Connects systems to the nervous system — each false model maps directly onto survival states (fawn, freeze, flight, fight).
- Exposes emotional distortion as social design — love given for compliance, worth tied to performance, safety traded for silence.
- Makes roles visible and nameable — “the good child,” “the strong one,” “the obedient partner” are revealed as systemic masks, not traits.
- Bridges personal healing and cultural change — showing that leaving false models isn’t rebellion—it’s repair.
- Provides practical maps — tools that let people spot these models in families, classrooms, workplaces, and self-talk—and begin dismantling them gently.
In short: TEG-Blue reframes obedience, performance, and punishment as systemic survival patterns, not virtues—making invisible harm visible, and giving us maps to step out of roles and reclaim emotional sovereignty.
Foundational References & Notes — Breaking the False Models of Our Society
This framework draws from psychology, sociology, neuroscience, trauma, and cultural theory. Some thinkers I studied directly; others I absorbed through the field, conversations, or secondary sources.
Scientific Foundations (Psychology & Neuroscience)
- Donald Winnicott — True Self / False Self (direct)
- Anna Freud — Ego Defense Mechanisms (direct)
- Richard Schwartz — Internal Family Systems (IFS) (direct)
- Stephen Porges — Polyvagal Theory (direct)
- Trauma Responses — fight/flight/freeze/fawn (direct)
- Implicit Memory & Somatic Storage (absorbed)
Applied / Therapeutic & Trauma-Informed Models
- Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) models (direct)
- Narrative Therapy — Michael White, David Epston (absorbed)
- Trauma-Informed Practice — Bessel van der Kolk, Bruce Perry (direct)
- Family Systems Approaches — Murray Bowen, Salvador Minuchin (direct)
Cultural & Interpretive Influences
- Erving Goffman — The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life (Dramaturgy) (absorbed)
- Pierre Bourdieu — Habitus, Symbolic Power, and Social Capital (direct)
- Role Theory — how cultural scripts shape identity and behavior (direct)
What They Collectively Show
These works explain how false models of identity and society are built, reinforced, and transmitted:
- Psychology identifies how false selves and defense strategies form in unsafe conditions.
- Sociology reveals how obedience, performance, and dominance are rewarded as cultural scripts.
- Neuroscience links these scripts to survival states in the body and nervous system.
- Education and therapy show how these models can be named, challenged, and dismantled through relational and systemic practices.
Together, they support TEG-Blue’s reframing: false models are not individual flaws but collective survival patterns—wired into both our biology and our culture.