TEG-Blue Origin Timeline — From Collapse to Framework

What Follows: The Foundation of the Work

Everything below walks you through the real-life origins of TEG-Blue:

Where it came from, how it was built, and why it works.

These sections are written from inside the experience—not to prove anything, but to show you what was felt, tracked, and translated.

TEG-Blue Origin Timeline

A schematic map of lived events, realizations, and the birth of key frameworks

This timeline shows how each part of TEG-Blue emerged from specific moments of collapse, insight, and survival.

Every framework, every visual, and every tool came from an emotional turning point.

Date / Moment	What Happened	Emotional Impact	Key Realization	Tool or Framework Born
April 2024 — Leaving the Relationship	Left covertly abusive partner after 6 years. Began researching narcissism. Family members felt threatened as they recognized themselves in the patterns → subtle exclusion began (children no longer brought to visit).	Grief from breakup + sudden loss of kids’ presence. Confusion at family’s withdrawal. Deep loneliness.	First clues of enmeshed family systems. Recognition of covert punishment (withdrawing affection to control).	Survival tracking + first sketches of emotional pattern mapping.
April–May 2024 — Subtle Avoidance & Isolation	Mother begins silent avoidance. In acute financial crisis (ex left with ano salary, no savings). Kids no longer visiting, removing main emotional anchor.	Feeling invisible. Hypervigilance (listening for footsteps). Heavy sadness at loss of safe space with children.	Saw that emotional neglect can be active and passive. Awareness of family jealousy targeting healthy bonds (with kids).	Seed of Emotional Neglect insight → groundwork for Harm Gradient.
Summer 2024 — Escape on the Road	Motorbike trip with dog across France. Relief in nature. Tension returns in Germany as André lies about savings.	Temporary freedom and peace. Return of tension in shared social networks.	Realized difference between connection spaces (nature, freedom) and control spaces (family, enmeshed social circles).	Seed of spatial/relational thinking in Mode Framework (Connection vs. Protection).
Late Summer 2024 — Return to Family Building	Return to family apartment due to finances. Kids stop visiting entirely. Brother undermines credibility with others (“she should work as waitress”).	Feeling trapped in toxic dynamic. Hopelessness at silence. Pain at reputation erosion.	Recognition of triangulation (children as pawns). Awareness of reputation sabotage as economic abuse tactic.	Insight fuels Modes + Defense Mapping (how narratives control roles).
Dec 1, 2024 — Brother’s Birthday Lunch	Siblings excluding directly in a family dinner birthday celebration dinner. Mother normalizes.	Humiliation + erasure. Loneliness even in group.	Recognition of covert shaming (financial pressure + social exclusion). Saw silence & side-talk as isolation tactics.	Sharpens mapping of manipulative tactics within Defense/Manipulation Modes.
Dec 2024 — Ex-Partner Stalking	Ex seen multiple times near home. Overlaps with family hostility.	Heightened unsafety. Hypervigilance. Feeling cornered.	Recognition of post-separation abuse as intimidation. Awareness that stalking is a measurable red flag for lethal violence.	Risk-awareness lens embedded into TEG-Blue Safety Mapping.
Dec 2024 — Pre-Christmas Message	Sent message: saying not spending Christmas together, but left door open for future.	Anxiety before, relief mixed with sadness after.	Practicing non-escalating boundary-setting. Learned that clarity ≠ repair in unsafe systems.	Early skillset for Boundary-Setting Tools.
Jan 2025 — Therapy Setup	Family arrange “family therapy” that turns out to be a psychiatric evaluation. Told psychiatrist false info about ADHD meds.	Shock and betrayal. Grief at confirmation they’d distort reality.	Named tactic: gaslighting by diagnosis. Recognition of projection as systemic defense.	Solidified Defense Mode logics.
Early 2025 — Pre-Leaving	Brother campaigns against project annaparetas.cat, Others adopt narrative.	Feeling trapped. Pain at professional dismissal. Loss of trust.	Recognition of economic abuse (undermining autonomy). Awareness of reputation erosion as family weapon.	Sharpening of Capital Filter Framework beginnings.
Early 2025 — Decision to Leave & Birth of TEG-Blue	Accepted family will not support. Sold car to fund independence. Created Hurt Gradient Scale to distinguish harm vs. discomfort.	Empowerment from creation. Grief at leaving, hope in new path.	Clear realization: discomfort ≠ harm. Visual distinctions dismantle manipulation.	Birth of TEG-Blue as a system. Hurt Gradient Scale becomes first core tool.

From Personal Breakdown to Global System Design

I lost everything. No income. No home. No family. No certainty. What I had was a mind trained for pattern, and a body flooded with trauma.

Every day, for months, I worked obsessively to map what I was feeling and why. I created visual tools to make sense of what I had no words for. I discovered that our emotional systems operate like gradients—not just personally, but socially, relationally, and systemically.

Over time, I realized I wasn’t just building a personal map.

I was building a universal architecture of emotional experience.

And I made a promise to myself: If I survive this, I will bring this map to the world. Not for praise. Not for profit. But so no one else has to walk through what I did, feeling lost and alone.

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